You meet great guys, but they always seem to leave before the relationship really gets started. You even have a hard time keeping friends. Is it you or them? The problem could actually be you.
You still deserve love. You just have to admit you’re difficult to love and take steps to be a little more open. Once you do, things will start to change.
1. YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF
Think about it for a few minutes. Do you honestly love yourself? You’ll never be able to make a relationship work if you don’t value yourself. You have to sit down and realize how incredible you are. The moment you start loving who you are, you’ll be more accepting of others who want to love you too.
2. EVERYTHING COMES BEFORE LOVE
Of course, you’re busy. We all are. But when everything in your life comes to love, there’s a problem. You have to make time for friends and relationships. All that hard work to get to the top means nothing if you’re always alone and have no one to celebrate with. Think about your priorities and spare some time for love.
3. YOU NEVER BELIEVE THOSE THREE LITTLE WORDS
A clear sign you’re difficult to love is when “I love you” makes you see red, and not in a good way. For some reason, you just can’t believe anyone actually means them. The thought that someone is lying to you makes you angry. Even if a guy’s telling you the truth, you don’t want to hear it.
4. COMPROMISE ISN’T IN YOUR VOCABULARY
You shouldn’t have to give up everything for love – you will have to make some changes, though. If you refuse to ever compromise, you’re not going to be easy to love. Doing something as simple as trying a new restaurant or going to an event that’s important to the guy you’re dating is just part of being in love. Compromise a little or watch love pass you by.
5. YOU THINK YOU’RE PERFECT
In other words, you’re a diva. I hate to break it to you, but you’re not perfect. You have flaws too. Thinking others should bow down to your perfection just means others are going to walk the other way. Be more realistic and realize you have some not so wonderful qualities (like that whole diva/perfection issue).
6. YOU LIKE MAKING GUYS CRY
You love how guys try to love you, but you tear them down and make them cry. That’s only appropriate if the guy’s a complete ass. Otherwise, you’re being a bitch and not the good kind. You just want to hurt them before they hurt you. Every guy isn’t going to break your heart. Give them a chance and stop being so difficult.
7. YOU’RE NOT INTO SHARING
Do you bottle up everything? Have you been with a guy for several months and the deepest thing you’ve shared is your favorite color? Love requires a little more sharing than that. You can’t expect others to love you when you refuse to share anything about yourself.
8. CYNICAL IS YOUR MIDDLE NAME
Cynical women are always difficult to love. A certain level of cynicism is fine, but too much is just unhealthy and pushes any loving prospects away. Give people a chance once in a while and you might just find you have a reason to be less cynical.
9. YOUR BAGGAGE WEIGHS YOU DOWN
It’s difficult to love a woman who’s so weighed down by her past that she can’t see what she has in front of her. If all your thoughts focus on your past and your insecurities, you’re not able to let anyone in. Letting go of the past and learning to love yourself is key to tackling this one.
It’s not that others don’t love you, you just refuse to accept it. Give love a chance. You might find the right people don’t care how difficult you’re being, they’ll love you anyway.